When you were 5 …

This week 2 things happened to make me think about being 5.


I came across these words…



and I'm thinking… do we really treat ourselves in this way?


Then I got to thinking… what do we remember about being 5?

I have some memories but they are patchy, and I don't remember day to day as I would see it as an adult.



This week my Aunty Jac and Uncle Pete celebrate their 50th Wedding Anniversary.

You may have read in one of my blogs, that earlier this year, one of my cousins suddenly died, and he was their son. That was such a shock, and I know they are still terribly sad, but they are having a small family get-together.

I am not able to go, but decided on a gift for them.

Mummy had some photo's from their wedding, at which I was a bridesmaid… at Guess What?? … at 5 years old!

So I had prints of these made and bought a silver frame for 3 photos. I hope they like it!


So the 5 year old connection came again…

and an interesting story… talking to mummy about the wedding the other night, I found out that my parents didn't even go! I was collected by another aunt and uncle and driven by them up to the North of England from the south, where we live. I stayed at my nanny and grandad's, but you know what…?

I don't remember that trip at all…


So much of our childhoods we don't remember, and so much of our lives are run by our beliefs which we take on as children, without knowing it.

As we go through adulthood we will love and cherish children, but are we doing that to ourselves?

I have been exploring myself over the last year, but there are obviously lots of questions to ask!!!




So this was my photo…



And my message to you today is as above…


” … from this day forward, extend that same compassion to your adult self. “

by Kris Carr


I would love to include your photo's of Β ‘When You Were 5′ … if you are able, add them to comments, or I will add them to this post if you send them to me by email or facebook.


Do you have a special memory from when you were 5?


take care



Jacs Henderson



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    24 replies to "When You Were 5…"

    • Donna Merrill

      Hi Jacs,

      Frst I just have to say that you were such a cute 5 year old! If we do picture ourselves as 5, it does a heck of a lot of good because I’ve done it! Several years ago I went to therapy for an “Inner Child Workshop” I went through tears, and many emotions, but I did contact that “Child Within”

      Now, I’m treating myself better than ever. It wasn’t an easy task to do but it was worth it. When we treat ourselves like we were 5, we form a mindset of awareness that we deserve to be loved and treated with honor.

      Great topic to ponder,

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      • Jacs Henderson

        Aww thanks Donna! I have to say I love the idea of that work-shop, I really believe we have a lot locked away, and have touched on this in many courses I have done, but not got right to the bottom of it.
        I am amazed at the lack of conscious memory we have of that time.
        So pleased you are treating yourself well, now I see that we must, as Sue said in her comment ‘we should treat ourselves how we treat others’ and how true is that!!
        I am considering the child in me now, and a greater awareness and perspective.
        Thank you for sharing your story Donna πŸ™‚

    • Sue

      How massive that bouquet looks with you holding it πŸ™‚

      They say treat others how we’d like to be treated ourselves. The opposite is also true. Treat ourselves how we like to treat others. I love Chris Carr’s words.

      I was bridesmaid for my sister when I was 5. In nearly all the photos my bloomers were showing because of a strong wind. That was in Northern England too.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Lol Sue! There are a lot of windy days in Northern England πŸ™‚ How brilliant you were a bridesmaid to… it’s a bit of a fairytale for a child, and I so loved my dress for years afterwards! Do you have any photo’s to share?
        Treat ourselves how we treat others is a key statement for me, something I kind of never thought about much, like many giving people… and those words from Kris really made me think!
        Thanks for sharing your memory πŸ™‚

    • Joan Harrington

      Hi Jacs πŸ™‚
      You were so cute at 5 years old!!!! Great picture! Well for me to share a picture of me when I was 5 I would have REALLY have to dig lol Maybe I will just have to share πŸ™‚

      Really enjoyed your post! To be honest I do not remember much at that age πŸ™ my mother gave me tons of baby pictures and in some of them I look older like around 5 or 6 but I really do not remember much lol

      The only memories I have are my kids being 5 πŸ˜‰ Oh well, really got me thinking about being a kid again, thank you!

      Have a great weekend!
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      • Jacs Henderson

        I bet you were cute too at 5 Joan πŸ™‚ It’s just that age before we seem to grow up and start losing teeth πŸ˜‰
        Thanks for enjoying the post and sharing what you remember… it seems to be a common thread, lack of memories!
        I guess remembering how you have fun and care for a 5 year old is how we should treat ourselves… so enjoy being a kid again, I intend too πŸ™‚ …and if you find a cute photo, do send it!

    • Kathryn Maclean

      When I was 5
      I was extremely shy. Rather, painfully shy, I would hide behind my mother’s skirt I recall rather than have to speak to a stranger.
      I have a pic of myself with my grandmother that I have in my office.
      She I learned was also shy as a child. Funny, I always felt so close to her, perhaps this was one of the reasons why.
      Condolences on your family’s loss. Doing the pictures for your Aunt and Uncle would have been something I would also have thought of.
      Thanks for posting this Jacs.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Lovely to hear you have a photo of you at aged 5 which you can look at often, I’m sure you cherish the memories of your grandmother, and how precious to feel a special bond with her, I’m sure there was more to it than just your shyness, but that is comforting to feel you were not alone!
        I sense you are quite a photo fan too πŸ™‚
        If you have a digital copy of your photo, do send it, I’d love to add it to the post and link back to you on facebook.
        Thank you for sharing your memories πŸ™‚

    • vinton samms

      Hi Jacs,
      Really enjoyed this piece. You have such a way with your words that they are so engaging. I did not skim, I read it all! I am so sorry I am not able to recall what happened at age 5. I know I can remember and always do, my early years in preschool and learning ‘ten green bottles on the wall’. I remember sitting and just imagining these bottles and in my innocence imagining them falling off and breaking. I am not able to say at what age this was. Sorry no pics.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Thank you Vinton for sharing memories of The ‘ten green bottles’… I remember that too! It is interesting how our memories are so selective at that age and just small moments are remembered from random times and events.
        But as long as we remember how important we were and still are and take care of ourselves, then my story was worth sharing.
        I am really pleased you enjoyed this post, as a personal message rather than a business one, and I appreciate you reading it πŸ™‚

    • Chery Schmidt

      Hello Jacs, I really don’t have a whole lot of memory of my childhood. I do remember my dad taking me to breakfast on the weekends and working with him in his shop, But other than that nothing!

      I do find this weird and no I dont have any pictures to share either. i was in a car accident when I was 7 and broke my pelvis i do have this picture but NO I dont what to share it and NO I dont really remember much of this either.

      What an article it sure does get me to thinking HUM
      Thanks for sharing
      Chery :))
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts and memories, and sorry to hear about your accident… some things are maybe better left. It is weird how many of us remember so little.
        I have taken away Kris Carr’s words and I reflect now on, at times when I feel emotional in any wayif I was 5, how would I treat myself right now, and what would I say to myself – I guess I am being sure I am looking after myself.
        Of course you are blessed with grandchildren, so you will be caring for them, looking after the young and shaping their future is such a wonderful joy πŸ™‚

    • Yvonne A Jones

      That’s a lovely photo of you, Jacs, and I’m glad you still have that memory. I do remember a lot of when I was a child, happy and not-so-happy memories. Interestingly, I had only two photos of myself as a child: 1) when I was about three years old with my half-brother. That photo, to my regret, disappeared some years ago. The other is when I was 5 years old. If I can figure out how to scan it, I’ll send it to you…but no, I have to find it first because in my move from Florida that box has still not been unpacked.

      It’s delightful to read the many stories from everyone else that your story brought to life, but you also asked a question that relates to self-care, and that is something I personally need to work on.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        What a shame you don’t have more photos. and I hope you find the one from when you were 5 Yvonne… it’s great to have it visible, it really helps with the self-care element when looking back to nurture yourself aged 5 and ‘talking’ to yourself in the current day. (send it if you find it!)

    • BG Jenkins

      Oh Jacs, what a beautiful picture of you. I have to say, I cannot remember specifically being five. I can remember being 6 and the first day of school was my brithday. I can remember earlier years…but not the age exactly. We do need to nurture ourselves just as we nurture our children. We deserve to be joyful and cherish those around us as we live our lives. Great post.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Thank you for those nurturing words BG, it is interesting how we have small memories of early year moments, but not great recollections!

    • Suzie Cheel

      Jacs. I love this, Yesterday I was listening to Love for no reason while driving and I heard love your inner child, talk to it , talk it for a walk, ask it what it would like to do. This is a wonderful post and now where is the box of old photos πŸ™‚
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      • Jacs Henderson

        That’s wonderful Suzie, I am following these principles, it is important to nourish our souls πŸ™‚ If you find a photo, do send it!!

    • Lawrence Bousquet

      What do I remember about being five. Not much. That might have been the summer when my cousin came to visit and she could not eat chocolate so when the ice cream cart came down our street it was the orange creamsicle that we would get.
      In regards to treating ourselves better that is something I have been working on. I now question my thoughts and wonder if they are true, or if I have come to believe they are true. I must see if I can get any pictures of me when I was five. What a great way to think about how your treating yourself.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        That’s a poignant memory Lawrence! Chocolate vs Orange is a tough one for a 5 year old!
        I love the picture idea for reminding me to take care of myself… and reflecting on your thoughts and decisions is a perfect way to get down to the ‘real’ person inside us, great to hear you are joining me in this mission πŸ™‚

    • Barrie Evans

      I don’t actually remember things when I was 5. I have been told about my first day in school, which was literally over the road from where I was living. The dog, a corgi named Pip, came to the school with me and wouldn’t let anyone near me. They had to get my parents to take the dog out.
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      • Jacs Henderson

        Lol Barrie! Fancy having a guard dog aged 5 – That’s a great memory πŸ™‚

    • Mary Sloane

      Hmmm When I was 5. Jacs this was a wonderful way to consider yourself today, becuase while I have come a long way I still have far to go and in many ways in my new online ventures I am 5 all over again.

      I remember the excitement of going to school and my disappointment in being told I couldn’t read, my teacher had no idea that kids could read when they were 5 so my Mom had to explain that I was indeed able to read, and had read for years by then.

      Made me realize adults weren’t all knowing.

      A great place tp come from with a wonderful excitement about life and a healthy skepticism about mentors.

      Thanks for the memories. I also got my first kitten when I was 5 it followed me into the classroom and snub ggled in my arms until my Mom came to get me and then she didn’t want me to take it home. I won that battle too.

      Fun times

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      • Jacs Henderson

        Wow Mary,

        fantastic comment… how insightful, that we actually do re-visit that 5 year old in us when we begin new ventures and place ourselves in unfamiliar and challenging positions.

        Loved hearing your memories, and how young to realise that adults aren’t all knowing… but how good your mom could put the teacher right! that could be a big issue for a 5 year old to be told they can’t read and made to feel uncomfortable.

        Love the kitten story… you were a very bright and determined child! It’s good to look back and smile, and see how those memories and early actions shape us today.

        At all times we must use our adult knowledge to nurture our unsure 5 year old selves through our grown-up lives…

        The fun must go on πŸ™‚

        (today was my lucky day finding you in Spam… what a loss it would have been to lose your fantastic comment.)

        ~ Jacs

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